Being a caregiver is not only a lot of work and a lot of stress, it is a lot of responsibility. Depending on the level of care your loved one needs the responsibility may range from simple medication reminders to complete, round-the-clock-do-everything-for them care.
When you sign on to be a caregiver, you are signing on to fulfill the responsibilities with the patient’s very best interests at heart.
Everyone approaches caregiving differently. Every situation is different. The existing relationship between caregiver and patient, the amount of care needed, the disposition of the patient and much more are all factors that shape the approach. And, no matter how it’s done, it’s difficult. That’s why 99% of the time, I adopt a “Judge not, lest ye be judged” attitude.
Except for this: a caregiver of a dementia patient recently told me that whether or not her loved one takes her medication is the patient’s “own free will” because she “can’t force them down her throat” so she sets the meds (and there are many!) out every morning and whether or not the loved one takes them is then up to the loved one and not the caregiver.
The person with dementia lacks the rational thought, the understanding of the consequences of not taking the meds or the memory to know it must be done. No, she can’t force them down her throat, but she can give them to her and sit with her until she finishes taking them. She may be able to crush them into her food if necessary. There are ways to fulfill this responsibility to ensure the health and well-being of the patient.
Another of my mantras of caregiving is “Pick your battles.” Is it ok if my mom wants to wear the same shirt for three days? As long as it’s reasonably clean, sure! But when it comes to taking her meds, it’s not up for discussion.
If you’re experiencing difficulty getting your loved one to take his or her medication, check out these articles for tips, and by all means, if you have tips you’d like to share, leave them in the comments!